Part I: Sexy Times in Pregnancy
Sex is a low risk activity in pregnancy for the vast majority of people. AND don’t worry it doesn’t harm the baby (who is well cushioned by amniotic fluid, a strong uterus, and tissue of the abdomen).
Every body is different! Some people may experience an increase in desire or sexual satisfaction, while others may experience a decrease. As long as you’re feeling up for sexual activity almost anything goes …
However, here are some things to consider:
Talk to your provider if you have symptoms or complications that may be worsened by sexual contact. For example if your water is broken you will be instructed by your provider to avoid inserting anything into your vagina.
While you are pregnant your immune system isn’t working as hard, and so you are at increased risk for infection.
Use condoms or other protective barriers with new partners, partners with sexually transmitted infections (STIs), or if you are not in a monogamous relationship to prevent transmission of infections
Be sure to thoroughly clean all sex toys
Avoid anal penetration before vaginal penetration (or be very hygienic)
Use the bathroom soon after sex to avoid urinary tract infections (UTIs)
Sex may feel different
Vagina may feel bruised
Breasts, nipples, and genitals may have increased sensitivity
Spotting may occur after sex
Different positions may work better than others, experiment and see what feels best
Missionary position may cause dizziness or shortness of breath because the weight of the uterus and baby can put pressure on a large vein that carries blood to the heart. (Try using a wedge pillow or lying on your side as a similar alternative)
Levels of lubrication may be different during pregnancy. Most women have increased lubrication, but some may experience dryness. (Try a personal lubricant from Sliquid’s organic product line, or Yoni Cream by Avena Botanicals)
Many pregnant people feel a decreased desire to have sex as a pregnancy progresses, but there are many factors at play.
Non-penetrative sex and other forms of intimacy may increase
Worry over health of a pregnancy
Body image
Depression or anxiety symptoms in pregnancy
Age of the pregnant person (teens tend to have more sexual desire and activity during pregnancy than older pregnant people)
It’s safe to enjoy sex and the changes your body is going through. If sex doesn’t seem appealing or enjoyable then it is okay to wait until a time when you have more desire. Communication with sexual partners is an important way of adjusting sexual behaviors to accommodate these changes.
Talk to your midwife (or other provider) if you have concerns. Education on sexual
anatomy and physiology is empowering and helpful during different stages of life.
TO BE CONTINUED… (Part II Sexy Times After Birth)
